In a few days I’ll be the mother of a 1 year old and a 2 year old. I never planned to have such a close age gap but fate had other plans. Its bittersweet that my baby girl is turning one particularly because I don’t plan on having any more children. Looking back over this last year it really could be compared to a roller coaster, the most intense roller coaster in the world.
For some light hearted fun I thought I’d share my 10 THINGS YOU NEED TO SURVIVE 2 UNDER 2:
1. Friends and family
They say it takes a village to raise a child, and its true. With my first born I wanted to do it all on my own, as if I needed to prove something to myself. However with time I’ve realised how important self-care is, and you just can’t look after your family without also looking after yourself. I’m not suggesting that you have to leave your children with someone, rather to get all the help and support around the house (cooking, cleaning, organising).
2. Baby carrier
Have you ever tried breastfeeding a baby whilst toilet training a toddler ? fun times! Honestly the baby carrier is the best investment I’ve ever made. I loved my Tula because it could grow with baby and I’ve used it for birth girls. The carrier will be an absolute blessing whilst grocery shopping, attending to the older children or doing some household chores.
3. Support person
Wether this be your partner or a best friend; you absolutely need that special someone. A person that you can call in the middle of the night in tears, a person that will bring you dinner and watch the baby while you quickly shower, a person that won’t judge you because your house is always trashed, a person that will listen without judgement. If you don’t have that person then call me, I’ll be her ?
I’m not sure that I really need to explain this one… children + no sleep = cranky mum. Cranky mum + coffee = happy mum. Make it STRONG!!
5. Big heart
It’s pretty common but often unspoken that many mums go into second pregnancies wondering how they could ever love another child as much as they love their first. I know I had that exact fear. How would I ever love someone as much as my beautiful sweet first baby? Will it make me love my first child less? Does my heart need to share when it already fills so full? You will love all of your children like you’ve never loved before. Your heart doesn’t split instead it doubles in size. Your heart doesn’t have a ‘full capacity’ in fact it can keep growing as big as you allow it. Not only will you love these individual little souls but you will find a love that you’ve never had before and it’s a love for two identities that form siblings. A new love for this bigger and better family. Don’t fear it ?
6. Witty comebacks
You’ll hear ‘wow your hands are full’ approximately ten times per outing. At first I didn’t think much of it but after a while I started to take offence ? hands full? It must have been obvious I was struggling to wrangle the toddler whilst rocking the baby for the 381747th time. I don’t need a bloody stranger to point out that I’m in over my head!! The best and politest response that always left them thinking was ‘you think my hands are full, you should see my heart’
I’m going to admit that I don’t have enough of this… if you find some please let me know. Patience is important though, it’s important because these sweet little souls need to believe you genuinely care about the story they’ve just told you for the third time today.
Is there ever enough hours in the day? I think not. In order to prioritise self-care, a play-filled childhood for my girls, owning my own business and a social life Ive had to let things slip. The housework can wait, honestly, tis not going anywhere!
9. Phone storage
As much as they make you pull your hair out they are also utterly cute together. There are those little moments each day that make you awe and remember why you did this to yourself. You’ll want to capture everyone of those moments on camera, particularly to remind yourself that you shouldn’t trade your kids in on the bad days. You’ll take photos, lots of photos- so make sure you have lots of phone memory.
10. King Bed
Those that know me will also know I’m a co-sleeper. It was never something I planned to do but I ended up doing it from sheer desperation with my first born. She was a notorious 20 minute cat napper and woke at least hourly overnight till she was 12 months old. With my second born Ive absolutely embraced the beauty of cosleeping from day 1. Most nights we share the King Bed with all 4 of us. My only advice is to research how to cosleep safely, a good resource is the ‘Safe Sleep Seven’